Why Casey Stoney Came Out

Why Casey Stoney Came Out

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Casey Stoney, the England Women’s Captain, came out as lesbian this past February.  The decision to come out during the 2014 Winter Olympics in Sochi, though she herself refused to go to Russia in light of her sexuality, was both brave and strategic.  Many people were afraid of Russia’s strict anti-gay stance, and how the government would respond to gay athletes in the Olympics.  Stoney took advantage of this dialogue and came out as lesbian, showing her fellow athletes support and encouraging them to be strong and proud of their identities in a difficult time for gay athletes.  “I feel it’s really important for me to speak out as a gay player because there are so many people struggling who are gay,” she said, “and you hear about people taking their own lives because they are homosexual. That should never happen.”

Now, seven months later, Stoney and her partner Megan Harris are expecting twins.  Stoney says that she knew in February that she was planning to start a family, and made the decision to come out for the sake of her kids.  “We want our kids to know the truth from day one and to grow up proudly knowing they are loved and wanted by a family unit with two mummies,” she said.  “They will be strong and proud of who their mothers are. Hopefully, by the time they grow up, lesbians with children will be less of an issue.”

In doing this, Stoney also shows that she is proud to be becoming a mother.  Choosing not to hide her family from the world is powerful, and hopefully her children will grow up knowing that their mothers had to make a brave decision before they came into the world.  But since coming out, Stoney has been pleasantly surprised by the way her news was received, “The response has made me quite emotional. I didn’t know what to expect but it’s been so overwhelmingly positive. I’d say I’ve had about a thousand tweets today and maybe one wasn’t positive.”

Stoney also says that she is confused by the controversy over same-sex couples raising children.  “Why is it so important to have one mother and one father? It’s about being with people who love and care for you.” 

“Knowing I was going to be a mum made me more accepting of myself and gave me the strength to go public,” Stoney said, “I had to be honest and transparent for the sake of my children.”

Hi! I am an English major at Fontbonne University in Saint Louis, Mo. I am a compulsive page-turner, avid cartoon-watcher, social media addict, and princessaholic, but I'm also bisexual, a feminist, a romantic, and my mother describes me as a walking paradox. Find me on Twitter at @Amandeeter or follow my school newspaper @GriffinRoar


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