Hi! Hindi ko alam kung totoong babasahin mo nga kapag may nag – email sayo, pero dahil sa hindi ko na talaga alam sino matinong makikinig, makakatulong at maniniwala sa akin, I will grab this chance na rin. I’m a girl, 26 years old, with a son that’s turning 2 years old. Nagsasama kami ng tatay niya sa bahay at 6 years na kami. Bago siya, dami narin akong naging boyfriend, at ever since, ni minsan, walang tibo ang nagkagusto o nanligaw sa akin, kaya talagang boys lang. Mas marami ang bestfriends, friends at barkada kong boys kay sa babae, kaya iisipin mo pang flirt ako. Kaso sa mga kalagitnaan yata ng college years ko nagsimula yung ganitong feeling ko… di ko alam bakit, pero sa tuwing nag-sesex kami ng tatay ng anak ko, kahit anong pilit at concentrate ang gawin ko para lang maging fair sa kanya, wala talaga e. DI AKO LALABASAN UNLESS SI CRISTINE REYES o sexy hot girls ang imaginin kong ka sex ko. Up to now, ganun pa din at ganun na yata talaga at forever. At walang kaalam alam ang boyfriend ko dito. All this years akala nya siya ang nakakasatisfy sa sex life ko. May friends akong tomboy at ang sabi nila mapapatunayan ko lang na BISEXUAL ako kung me makikilala akong girl na open – minded na willing tumulong sa akin, yung tipong magsasama kaming dalawa lang sa isang room para malaman ko kung makikipag-sex ba ko sa kanya o baka naman pag andyan na e maisip kong “teka! imagination ko lang yata un, ayoko ng ganito, di ko kaya” kaso ang hirap kasi makahanap ng makakatulong sa akin na girl, wala kasing naniniwala sa akin. May nag-sabi pa nga na gawa-gawa ko lang yung kwento kong ito para mapalapit sa boys… kaya ang hirap talaga… gusto ko lang na matapos itong pag-iisip ko kung ano ba talaga ako… ano ba dapat kon gawin? pano ko ba mapapatunayan? tulungan mo naman ako please??? Sana talaga sagutin mo itong e-mail ko, pagkato ko kasi issue dito, di naman basta-basta lang… asahan ko sagot mo.. Thank you very much for your time! God bless you!
By BI-CURIOUS Girl
Hello BI – CURIOUS Girl!
Thank you for writing and sharing your story to me. Basing on your situation now, I would want to ask you how far can you go in taking risk? If ever you decide to seek answers to your questions. It is a matter of keeping your family intact by suppressing such curiosity or taking risk by venturing into the unknown, which is to discover more about your sexuality. If ever you reach to the point of discovering more about your sexuality and you would realize that you want to be with a woman, my second question is, are you willing to break up with your boyfriend (who you are with for 6 years) and be with a woman? It is a matter of taking risk. However, it would be better if you would try to discuss this issue with your boyfriend because it would be fair to him. There would be a possibility that this is just a phase that you are going through with yourself. I hope you can discuss it with your boyfriend soon about this issue because it might lead to a bigger problem and might put extra weight on the relationship.
Let’s say after such discussion, you would find out that your boyfriend is very open minded about the situation and he would permit you to go out with another woman. I guess, this would be a good cue that you could venture out without feeling any pang of guilt. However, this is just a theoretical possibility that this kind of outcome could happen after the discussion with your boyfriend.
As I’ve said, it is a matter of how far can you go about taking risks. I hope that what I’ve just said make any sense at all. I hope all will be well for you.
With so much love,
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